I recently read about a study that claimed men who smiled at women or who opened doors for women were guilty of “benevolent sexism.” So, I want to start this post with an apology.  To any woman at whom I may have smiled politely, or any woman for whom I may have held a door open, I apologize.  My misogynistic, barbaric, and down right caveman-like behavior was unacceptable and I promise never to do something so offensively sexist as offering you the same common courtesy I would extend to any other human being regardless of their gender.  In fact, in the future I will do my best to offer you nothing more than indifference and be certain to ignore you if I see you need help with anything.  After all you’re a woman and you can do it yourself.

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We do not think you are incapable

Now of course I am being facetious and I would never be intentionally rude to anyone.  Additionally I think I can speak or all men who understand that women are in no way second-class citizens when I say we do not think women are incapable.  Men are often portrayed as dumb or lumbering fools barely able to keep from getting out of our own way.  However most of us are aware of the basic laws of physics that govern things like the amount of force required to open the supermarket door and a females ability to exert  said force.  Therefore we recognize that yes you are capable of doing it yourself.  But that’s not the point.

We do think that you are worthy

The point of the matter is actually quite simple.  It’s this, people like me who believe that human beings are created in God’s image (both men and women) also believe, because of this, women are worthy of being treated with respect and dignity.  Sometimes, this is expressed by a smile or an offer of assistance that is just that, an offer of assistance.  It is not some back door way for us to express our dominance over you.  It is simply a matter of recognizing the importance of human dignity for all human beings.

We also think you are precious

Diamonds, we are told, are a girls best friend, but I am not sure that is true for all girls.  However, we do know that diamond is the hardest substance on earth.  They are incredibly strong, and incredibly precious. Women are much like diamonds, incredibly strong and incredibly precious.  Precious does not mean weak, frail, or feeble, it means important, special, and cherished.  This is the lie I would you challenge to reject.

Women, speaking as a man who recognizes that he can be a bit thick at times and also recognizes he knows nothing about being a woman except that I’ve been married to one for almost 19 and been a father to one for 18 years, don’t buy the lie that precious means weak, frail or feeble.  You are not weak, you are not frail, you are not feeble.  You are precious.  You are important, you are special, you are made in the image of God and you should be cherished.  Don’t buy the the lie that says if you are cherished by a man that it somehow destroys your value.  A good man who cherishes you simply multiplies the great value you already possess.  Is it necessary? Of course not, but it really can be beautiful!

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I recently read about a study that claimed men who smiled at women or who opened doors for women were guilty of “benevolent sexism.” So, I want to start this post with an apology.  To any woman at whom I may have smiled politely, or any woman for whom...